It turns out that every human being in the world has a fear of something and so do I. The difference in a person that stays with that fear and gets over it is if he or she is willing to face, embrace and have a positive relationship with fears. I think that I have had a good relationship with fear these last few months. I have gone and met my fears face on like going to interviews I don’t like, giving speeches, talking to people I don’t really want to talk to, go for my personal training business, face my boss with confidence and many other things.
I have learned many things facing my fears. One big thing I learned is that my fears are not real. When I first moved into my house I was so scared that someone was in my house and never liked the dark in my house when I went to sleep. But as I lived longer by myself there was a certain peace I gained in the silence and in the darkness. My fear began to be my peace of mind. My mind had transformed my fear into something I was so thankful for. I loved being in the dark alone and being by myself. I never again felt like there was someone in my house with me. I use to hesitate to go downstairs in the dark but now I do not even second guess it. I think I was able to get through this because I was able to form a meaningful relationship with this fear of being alone in the dark. I started to appreciate silence and my alone time. Never again did I feel the anxiety and the grip of fear strangling me in the neck. I had embraced it and I faced it head on. And it became like this for many things through exposure and mere repetition and the act of me forming a positive relationship with my fear that helped me change my perspective in life. Now I know too well that fear is all just an illusion and that perspective is different for each person. My fear for other things began to dissipate and I began to stand up for myself more and be more confident in my actions and decisions.
Facing my fears affected every area of my life and I started to live more and more everyday. William Wallace said that, “every man dies, but not every man lives’. And I think this is so because of fear. Fear cripples us from living the life that we really want to live. It keeps us in a box that we feel comfortable and safe in. I never knew how much of a box I was in until I started to break out of it. Now the norm is to break out of my box every chance I get so that I can live the life that I want to live everyday.