What excites you? What is the reason you get out of bed everyday? What is your dream life? What is your ultimate goal?
A goal is like a ship following a planned out route..
Let me paint a picture for you. Some of you may have heard this analogy from a famous speaker named Earl Nightingale. Imagine a boat all ready to set sail on an open voyage across the sea, but it had no captain, no route, no crew, or passengers. Now 99.9 times out of 100 that boat will probably end up on a deserted island or eventually become shipwrecked because it had no specific course or persons manning the ship. That is like a person without a goal. A specifically thought out goal is like a ship with a crew, a route, and passengers all eagerly setting off to its destination. It’s hard to feel like you are going anywhere without a goal in mind and that is why I believe many people struggle to find anything fulfilling is because they have no eagerness to get to a destination. Now when you get a goal, it does not mean you stress over it and meticulously plan out all the little details to get to that goal. Goals are meant to be a smooth journey that excites you every time you think about it. Just like the ship that has a planned out route with a captain and crew following it, it will sail smoothly until it hit its destination and just like the ship you can do the same with your goals. So here is how you can start:
Have a specific goal in mind and think about it every single day for 10-20 minutes and doing that will allow you to set the specific actions needed to accomplish that goal, thoughts become action. You have to be consistent about this.
Now keep in mind that this will not happen overnight. Usually most goals take a while to accomplish, and some not so long. Goals are not meant to be stressed over, but are meant to help fuel you and excite you to get up in the morning. If you are not use to this start off with small 30 day goals first and as you start accomplishing them make bigger and bigger ones and you will see that you have accomplished more goals than you expected to. To accomplish this make three list of goals, a 30 day one, a 1 year one and a 5 year one and write it down. Now right after you get up every day think about those goals and just picture them in your head right before you start and end your day and if something throws you off from setting that goal don’t feel guilty, but use it as a learning point.
I find that when people as well as myself get thrown off track that they become discouraged or guilty for not being perfect. The real truth is that, no one in this world is perfect, and we are going to fail, but you can either stay down after getting knocked out or you can get up. It is up to you, I’d rather endure a little bit of pain instead of regret. You have to learn to let go of the feeling of shame and guilt if you are going to accomplish any goal because if you don’t all you will be doing is wasting your time with those negative thoughts instead of being proactive with accomplishing your goals.
Achieving your goals is like a muscle, you get better at achieving them over time. So plan out small goals for yourself like writing in a journal everyday for a month, no tv after 10 for a month, or even wake up at 6 am to do a short workout everyday for a month. The more goals you accomplish the better you get at achieving your ultimate goal in life. So do something your future self will thank you for and always get up after failure and do not lose sight of your goals. Have a vision and a goal planned out to get your dream life. You will not regret it. Now start making some goals and get excited to wake up everyday in life.