Crumbling Negative thoughts

So when I mention crumbling your negative thoughts, you would think that i was using it as a metaphor because you are probably thinking, how do you crumble a negative thought like crumpling a piece of paper?  It is physically impossible, but in the mind anything is possible.  

The mind cannot distinguish the difference between a real life situation and a made up situation you conjure up in your head.  So in your head you use a thing called the imagination and in your imagination there is no limit to what you can do.  When you go to sleep and you have a very bad dream called a nightmare, and the act of having a nightmare is all in your head but you wake up you find yourself breathing very hard, sweating, or in some way shape or form physically affected by the dream.  That is because it might have been scary, it might have brought up a past memory or something bad might have happened.  But when you wake up you come to find that none of that stuff actually happened, but what you imagined in your brain made it a reality for your body.  So if you can do that when you are asleep, why can’t you do that when you are awake?  To do this you have to be persistent and consistent until it becomes a habit.  I find that this is useful in my life when a negative thought comes up in my head.  I picture that negative thought and Imagine that negative thought on a piece of paper and just like a piece of paper you can crumble it, throw it away and there is a new sheet right behind it.  So I imagine having that negative thought fully drawn out on that piece of paper with a pen and then crumbling it, throw it away and I have a new sheet of paper for a new thought I can make positive.

I tend to be a pretty positive person all the time, but there is every now and then that a negative thought creeps its way in and I find it lounging in my head and the thought get much bigger than I want it to.  So when that happens I literally crumble my negative thoughts in my head and pull open a new sheet of paper for a new thought which I try to make positive.  I tried this for a couple days and nothing was happening, but then as time went on I was persistent about it and I saw how powerful my mind was at clearing out negative thoughts through my imagination.  If you are skeptical, don’t take my word for it, try it for yourself for three weeks.  What do you have to lose? Nothing?  You are always constantly thinking anyways so why not use your thinking time to try out a new technique to get rid of those negative thoughts so you can live a more positive life.  

The mind is a powerful thing and there is not one specific way to use your mind.  Everyone thinks differently and everyone copes with things differently.  This is just how I cope with my thoughts that I have and they seem to work for me.  So try it out and be creative about how you use your mind and the more you are creative about it the more you will begin to see that there are no limits to what you can do through your mind.

Cheers

 

Just do it

I know it is a cliche, but that term really does apply and can make a real difference in your life.  I have found that 75 percent of success is just showing up.  So many people are presented with so many opportunities to do so many different things and end up not doing it because they are scared, they are lazy, they don’t think they are worthy and the list of excuses just goes on.  Being a yes man really does pay off because saying yes to things opens up so many new doors to things that you would have never imagined.  I remember that I was once presented an opportunity to do something that I had a passion for, but I had denied it because I was scared that I would fail at it and my mind would circulate about all the things that could go wrong if I did it.  it was a big responsibility on me.  And now that I see it, I should have taken it because failure is a part of success, you cannot be successful without failing.  If you never fail, you are playing it too safe in life and will never get anywhere if you do not fail.  So, if you have an amazing opportunity that is presented to you, go for it even though there is a chance of failure.  You never know if you never try.  As Wayne Gretzky said, “You miss 100% of the shots you do not take”. 

That applies in life as well.  You miss 100% of the opportunities you do not take in life.  I have had so much success just showing up to things with no expectation.  Whether it be meeting a contact, learning something new, or getting a job from it.  It is never a loss for you if you have the right attitude and just accept anything and everything that is given to you in that opportunity.  Life is game of inches; one inch can make the difference between winning and losing.  So don’t miss that inch and Just Do It….

Cheers

Brandon J Chau

Face Your Fears

It turns out that every human being in the world has a fear of something and so do I.  The difference in a person that stays with that fear and gets over it is if he or she is willing to face, embrace and have a positive relationship with fears.  I think that I have had a good relationship with fear these last few months.  I have gone and met my fears face on like going to interviews I don’t like, giving speeches, talking to people I don’t really want to talk to, go for my personal training business, face my boss with confidence and many other things.

I have learned many things facing my fears.  One big thing I learned is that my fears are not real.  When I first moved into my house I was so scared that someone was in my house and never liked the dark in my house when I went to sleep.  But as I lived longer by myself there was a certain peace I gained in the silence and in the darkness.  My fear began to be my peace of mind.  My mind had transformed my fear into something I was so thankful for.  I loved being in the dark alone and being by myself.  I never again felt like there was someone in my house with me.  I use to hesitate to go downstairs in the dark but now I do not even second guess it.  I think I was able to get through this because I was able to form a meaningful relationship with this fear of being alone in the dark.  I started to appreciate silence and my alone time. Never again did I feel the anxiety and the grip of fear strangling me in the neck.  I had embraced it and I faced it head on.  And it became like this for many things through exposure and mere repetition and the act of me forming a positive relationship with my fear that helped me change my perspective in life.  Now I know too well that fear is all just an illusion and that perspective is different for each person.  My fear for other things began to dissipate and I began to stand up for myself more and be more confident in my actions and decisions.  

Facing my fears affected every area of my life and I started to live more and more everyday.  William Wallace said that, “every man dies, but not every man lives’.  And I think this is so because of fear.  Fear cripples us from living the life that we really want to live.  It keeps us in a box that we feel comfortable and safe in.  I never knew how much of a box I was in until I started to break out of it.  Now the norm is to break out of my box every chance I get so that I can live the life that I want to live everyday.  

Cheers everyone

Goals: Prepare your ship to set sail

What excites you?  What is the reason you get out of bed everyday?  What is your dream life?  What is your ultimate goal?

A goal is like a ship following a planned out route..

Let me paint a picture for you.  Some of you may have heard this analogy from a famous speaker named Earl Nightingale.  Imagine a boat all ready to set sail on an open voyage across the sea, but it had no captain, no route, no crew, or passengers.  Now 99.9 times out of 100 that boat will probably end up on a deserted island or eventually become shipwrecked because it had no specific course or persons manning the ship.  That is like a person without a goal.  A specifically thought out goal is like a ship with a crew, a route, and passengers all eagerly setting off to its destination.  It’s hard to feel like you are going anywhere without a goal in mind and that is why I believe many people struggle to find anything fulfilling is because they have no eagerness to get to a destination.  Now when you get a goal, it does not mean you stress over it and meticulously plan out all the little details to get to that goal.  Goals are meant to be a smooth journey that excites you every time you think about it.  Just like the ship that has a planned out route with a captain and crew following it, it will sail smoothly until it hit its destination and just like the ship you can do the same with your goals.  So here is how you can start:

Have a specific goal in mind and think about it every single day for 10-20 minutes and doing that will allow you to set the specific actions needed to accomplish that goal, thoughts become action.  You have to be consistent about this.

Now keep in mind that this will not happen overnight.  Usually most goals take a while to accomplish, and some not so long.  Goals are not meant to be stressed over, but are meant to help fuel you and excite you to get up in the morning. If you are not use to this start off with small 30 day goals first and as you start accomplishing them make bigger and bigger ones and you will see that you have accomplished more goals than you expected to.  To accomplish this make three list of goals, a 30 day one, a 1 year one and a 5 year one and write it down.  Now right after you get up every day think about those goals and just picture them in your head right before you start and end your day and if something throws you off from setting that goal don’t feel guilty, but use it as a learning point.

I find that when people as well as myself get thrown off track that they become discouraged or guilty for not being perfect.  The real truth is that, no one in this world is perfect, and we are going to fail, but you can either stay down after getting knocked out or you can get up.  It is up to you, I’d rather endure a little bit of pain instead of regret.  You have to learn to let go of the feeling of shame and guilt if you are going to accomplish any goal because if you don’t all you will be doing is wasting your time with those negative thoughts instead of being proactive with accomplishing your goals.

Achieving your goals is like a muscle, you get better at achieving them over time.  So plan out small goals for yourself like writing in a journal everyday for a month, no tv after 10 for a month, or even wake up at 6 am to do a short workout everyday for a month.  The more goals you accomplish the better you get at achieving your ultimate goal in life.  So do something your future self will thank you for and always get up after failure and do not lose sight of your goals.  Have a vision and a goal planned out to get your dream life. You will not regret it.  Now start making some goals and get excited to wake up everyday in life.